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Picture this; you wake up late for lectures so you take a shower while running then luckily when you look out your door, you see the hostel shuttle preparing to leave. Quarter way the journey, the shuttle decides to run out of fuel so you have to walk. But the hostel manager; acting driver, gives you guys money for transport. You get to your Editing and Publishing class tired but you have to pay attention to the guy talking about Editing for the press and House style. Then you go to your English Stylistics’ class and you can’t listen to the lecturer because your neighbour is showing you photos of the car she wants to buy when her sponsors send her enough money. “What does she even need a car for?”
Finally it’s time for lunch! You are trying to enjoy your Finaland rice, irish and peas in Mary Stuart when the girls start pouring out about how it is crazy to date a broke guy. Yes! You’ve heard that conversation before; how broke guys won’t take you out, if they do they’ll make you walk to the date venue, can’t take you shopping, blah blah blah. Every time this comes up I wonder where all the fathers went. I mean what are the fathers doing if girls are looking for men just to provide for them? I know that sounds like an excuse on behalf of broke guys but it’s not. I’m just saying it is wrong to date a guy just cause he’s well off. That’s how girls end up being treated like scum “as long as he can afford to take me to Cafe Javas.” SERIOUSLY! Anyways, if God blesses you and you just happen to meet a guy who truly cares about you and is also well off, I’ll be happy for you.
I know someone who doesn’t like broke people who want to be pitied but hates broke guys just cause they are broke. Last night, I asked her if she’d wait for a guy if he left the continent. She stopped scrolling on her phone. Looked at me and said, “It depends. If he’s sending me money when he’s away I can wait.” Her explanation was; the money would keep her happy and so, distract her from other guys.
Women, want to live comfortable lives, as such, they’ll prefer a rich guy because her money + his = a better life. Which doesn’t make her materialistic, girls just love ambitious men. One who aims to succeed, takes charge of situations and is responsible. If a woman prefers her man to be “loaded” that doesn’t make her a gold-digger, it could mean there’s lots of things she’d like to experience, but with him.
That doesn’t mean there are no gold-diggers. The word wouldn’t exist if the humans didn’t. Some people want to faithfully grow with you. Others want to consistently take from you. I just wish there was an app that could identify someone who only liked your money; of they express interest in you, you ask for a selfie and your phone goes Ding!!!! at the sight of them. Maybe then humans would embrace honesty; “I was going to tell you I only like you for the money but now your phone already told you.”
A woman who loves you doesn’t date you for your money, she’ll stand by you even when the times are tough but you have to be tough to chase the tough times. You’ll have to strive hard to fulfill your whole potential and get better at what you do. I will never be a guy but I’ve heard that if a guy loves you he’ll do his best to give you the best life together. So strive to give your best, she’ll see it and appreciate you for it. Those things of saying, “I’m a broke guy and you either love me or leave me” won’t work forever. You have skills, talents, abilities…use all that to step out of the brokeness. Also, pray for the spirit of discernment so you don’t spend your life on someone who only sees you as a source of income.
Money may not be able to buy happiness but good things are never free.
It is wrong to marry for money but foolish to marry without it – Jane Auste
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